A Silent Shift

I wrote several potential blog posts over the weekend and they are sitting there, all deep and meaningful, but they are just not right for today.  There is something “holding the breath”-like on this last day of November.  Down below the cantankerous surface of social media and screaming headlines, the decrying and crying, a silent shift. Yes, for the better, ultimately.  I do believe that.  The human spirit is blossoming, taking off right now.  

 

Giving Thanks

There is so much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving.  I have a roof over my head as I finish the final minutes of "intermission," thanks to a dear friend and her ever-entertaining dog and cat.  I'm thankful to be part of a big Thanksgiving celebration and an excuse to bake one of my famous pies.  I'm thankful that I reminded myself yesterday that I can still paint in oils.  I am thankful for my computer, the library, and all my tools for information gathering and networking.  I'm thankful for world events, and all the ways they inspire thought and new spiritual understandings.  I'm thankful for friends near and far, some of whom are experiencing real challenges this month, and I'm sending them love.  I'm also, strangely enough, thankful for the raw, persistent and perplexing challenges in my own life, because I know that deep down they are catalysts for growth.  For whatever reason, I may not yet have learned their lessons, but that doesn't mean I cannot.  Somewhere deep down there within me is the power to do so.  Somewhere deep in me is extraordinary power, period.

More than anything, I am thankful for this blog, and the small audience of you out there reading it.  I know there is much to be done to make it more sophisticated, colorful and interactive. Yet for these few months, it has been what it needed to be.  Most of you cannot imagine the courage it has taken just to speak my truth in this modest way.  Each click of the "publish" button fills me with such fear, terror even, but once I do, I feel relief.  Yes, I'm finally out there in the world.  No lightning bolt. I'm still alive to write another day. Phew.

So I've only just scratched the surface.  To be a writer, regularly expressing herself in an ever-changing, spiritually-evolving world...what a great job!  I'm thankful.

Bittersweet

The other night, I had a very disorienting moment.  Perhaps it is on account of those little drips of divine love that I have finally allowed into my inner being.  They are sloshing around way at the bottom of the barrel, but are beginning to be noticeable.  Maybe it’s the “hundredth monkey” effect, where seven or eight years of Law of Attraction reading has finally taken hold.

But suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, I understood the theoretical possibility of experiencing the “sweet” not weighed down with the “bitter.”  Just for a moment, mind you, but long enough to completely upend me.

I don’t think there’s any doubt about it.  I’ve been addicted to the bittersweet.  I have always assumed that steps forward would be accompanied by steps backward.  That happiness had an alarm clock wired up to it (“OK, girl, you’ve got three minutes, grab as much as you can before uncertainty returns.”) That dreams coming true would always be accompanied by homelessness or poverty.  Passion would always be accompanied by rejection or solitude.  Accomplishment would always be accompanied by crushing debt.  People who were pleasant on the surface were rage-filled underneath, etc.  A lasting, unadulterated sense of joy, love, happiness or power was literally inconceivable, and so, of course, because you cannot experience what you cannot conceive of, I never experienced them.  Indeed, it was my impression that bittersweetness was a universal reality – I looked as reference at all the people who die two weeks after they retire.  Fall in love, then receive a cancer diagnosis.  Work like dogs to get a little bit ahead, then receive a huge medical bill. 

And much of our literature is based on a poignant, “tragic” construct, from Romeo and Juliet to The Gift of the Magi.  Some of our most potent religious beliefs twin the bitter with the sweet.  And look at creative masterpieces of art, music and drama.  My favorite composer?  Herbert Howells.  Hello?  Has there ever been music more wrenchingly, achingly, gorgeously, bittersweet?

Years ago, I tried to articulate my own life philosophy, to frame things without traditional language.  I’m proud of my efforts and process.  But let’s just say that, even there, in what I hoped was a new idea, I could not conceive of “joy” that was free to float upward without a tragedy “tether.” 

We are human.  We are always going to experience what Abraham-Hicks calls “contrast.”  It is an inevitable part and parcel of being on this planet, and it is necessary to spur desire, creativity, and growth.  But what I don’t think I understood until the other night was, energetically, how different pure joy is from bittersweetness.  Even one fleeting moment where I didn’t wait for the other shoe to drop was enough to have forever changed my landscape, both inner and outer.  The freedom was breathtaking but so powerful that I could see why most of us quickly grab for the nearest dead weight!  Books make it sound easy to focus on the positive, but when bittersweet is the highest experience you’ve ever had, you don’t really know what pure positive is.

What this one moment will mean for life going forward, I don’t know, but it has sure thrown me for a loop. I am thankful for it, though, and for the new, higher perspective it will surely bring. 

Reading

OK, so I have a new favorite author.  Kate Morton.  I've always liked reading, but until now have never really found a fiction author whose work I could literally stay up all night reading.  Now I have.  Her books have been around seven or eight years, but I just hadn't caught up, I guess.  What they have in common are strong women characters, long-held family secrets that one character is trying to get to the bottom of, story lines that span two, three, even four generations, and unique houses in England with personality.  Wow, what a combination!

The odd thing, though, is that at the end of a book, I spend at least 24 to 48 hours in kind of breathtaking appreciation of the remarkableness of normal life.  Whatever time period she is describing, be it wartime London or Edwardian Cornwall, you feel like you are there.  And then, once your head is out of the book, you feel as if your own steps are being taken as part of some larger drama.  I love to write, and have even given fiction one try, but her facility with words, and her interweaving of time periods and characters, leaves me in the dust.

I guess it has been a good week for distraction.  The news is overwhelming. I realize that the difference between now and my Time Inc. days is that on social media, I am not only accessing the perspective of one or two major news organizations, but dozens upon dozens of perspectives, warnings, criticisms, and predictions.  Can there possibly have ever been a time in human history where keeping a calm center was more difficult?

And yet, in the end, it is rather simple to sort through it all.  There is love, and there is the lack thereof.  As I scan through news feeds and news reports, wherever I access them, I try to sense the "energy" of the sender.  And when I can, perhaps paradoxically, to love the mixed cacophony. Somehow, we'll survive these times, and some brilliant writer 50 or 100 years from now will write about it.

Paris

It's hard to know what to say about this weekend, or the myriad other tragic recent events that have left so many of us shattered, fearful, and even angry, that hasn't already been said in the traditional media, social media, and elsewhere.

The only thing I can add, I guess, is this.  I have come to believe that there is only one "force" or "energy" in the Universe, and that is love.  Everything else is varying degrees of separation from love.  The enormity of that love is, itself, scary.  Most of us spend a lifetime pushing away from it.  Only a year ago or so I realized I had to make a choice -- to continue to allow an empty chasm at the core of my being, or to risk opening up the tap and allowing this powerful life force to fill the void.  Emptiness was terrifying, and love was terrifying, but there could be no middle ground.  So I opened the tap, slowly, so as not to swamp myself.  Love has begun to trickle in, drip, drip, drip.  At aged nearly 60.  Damn.

These world events are a reminder to go within, to find one thing, anything, to love.  And if we can't love this hard week, then liking is good.  Not social media "liking" but as deeply as we can bear, something in ourselves, our world, the wider world, in the stars.  In the end, we can't control anyone else's pipeline to love, only our own.  With everything that is happening, that's actually a relief.

Gratitude II

This isn't the post I was going to write today, but I guess being a blogger is a bit like being a stand-up comedian or a story teller.  When you face your audience, a whole different story may come out than you intended.

Do you ever have one of those nights when you simply cannot get to sleep? You end up reading an entire book, and roll your eyes at that cup of tea you had just a little too late in the day.  Once the light is off, you're still sitting bolt upright in the dark, feeling like your eyes are literally propped open with toothpicks.

And, last night, that's when it happened.  I was blindsided by a wave of gratitude unlike any I have ever felt.  Having just read a marvelous book (The House at Tyneford by Natasha Solomons) the only explanation I have is that for this brief moment in time, I could see my own life as a novelist or filmmaker might, as astonishingly full, dramatic, colorful, even suspense-filled.  I was tearful, and yet also beaming with pride, over the degrees earned, the paintings painted, the letters, articles and blogs written, the students taught, the friends made, the travels and risks taken, and the evensong services sung and heard  Whereas normally my attention gets stuck in the many roadblocks, hardships and uncertainties that have characterized my journey -- tempting me to lose heart -- in this context I could see them as important plot devices, catalysts for determination, movement and change.  I was the heroine of my own novel.  And yet, I was also the author.  For perhaps the first time I fully embraced my creative role in all of it, good and bad.

And there was more to come.  The wave of thankfulness lingered for a second in the present, and the warmth, safety, and new friends of my temporary current home, but then the wave kept moving, and pulled into its orbit my whole future.  Now, I'm not talking about the sometimes well meaning, but slightly manipulative, "thanks in advance to the Universe for getting me x, y or z."  Usually this doesn't work because underlying it is fear, a kind of "oh no, what will happen to me if x, y and z don't come?"  No, this appreciation was different.  It was a sort of gratitude bliss that wasn't attached to outcome.  It's like, I can see that I am beginning to trust my choices and actions, in tandem with the powerful stream of Life and Love, and I can feel that what I'm creating now will be even more remarkable and book-worthy if I can stay thankful and open hearted.  I finally fell asleep with a smile on my face.

I won't lie.  It was hard to maintain this level of positivity in the light of day, as a rainy wind blew and fear tried to take the reins.  And yet, at least now I have a clear memory of nearly an hour of my life spent in pure thankfulness.  And I think it will get easier and easier to align to that energy moving forward.  This is one heck of a good book I am writing.  And what I love is, we are all writing amazing books if you think about it.  I truly don't know one person with a boring life! Do you??

So much information

This is another stab at a topic I know I've already written about.  Thanks for bearing with me! 

One of the things that I keep having to remind myself is that there has never been a generation of humans exposed on a daily basis to so much information.  It is not only that there are so many more humans on the planet with every passing day, each with their own interests, skills and activities.  Each person is making an impact ("news" on some level or another), and we are receiving this wide-ranging news almost non-stop over the course of the day, in dozens of forms, and visually taking in ever more input. 

I was proud to be a "generalist" early in my lifetime, a Jill of all trades, master of none.  And I still believe in the American liberal arts education, which encourages exposure to many different academic disciplines. I believe in the kind of mind that can look at the big picture, analyze it, and find creative solutions in ways that perhaps a person of a very specialized education cannot.  Yet, this very generalization almost caused me not to be accepted into my British master's program -- evidently, in those days, an American undergraduate transcript was looked on as suspiciously unfocused.  Mine was a patchwork of music theory, music history, composition, conducting, and piano and organ -- but also English Literature, Chaucer, Scottish Literary Tradition, European history, theology, earth sciences and art.  Kind of a snapshot of me, really.  Then, when I worked as a letters correspondent at Time Magazine, part of our job was to read the New York Times every morning, so that we would be conversant about up-to-the-minute world and national news before responding to reader challenges to Time's own reporting. (This was before 24 hour cable news, Twitter, Facebook, or even e-mail.  Letters were still literally delivered by U.S. mail.) The journalistic "eye" and curiosity rubbed off and has stayed with me.  I can "do" generalist really well.

The down side of this for those of us who might have forgotten our own focus, or might be searching for it from scratch, is that the generalist ethos -- magnified by today's constant news stream -- means that your thoughts are constantly bouncing around from topic to topic to topic.  I give myself a hard time that I'm not more interested in, say, climate change and fashion and politics and new trends in physics. I get sucked into feeling responsible for keeping up with all of it. Then you add to it a tendency to worry about what other people are thinking, and all this external input can be utterly paralyzing. 

I tried to "do" the Times today, and yet after reading a few articles about Great Britain and a few recipes for Thanksgiving, I couldn't go any further.  It's the same with my Facebook news feed: I am grateful for links to the music and art that I am passionate about, and just to see my friends' names and faces.  But I just cannot do much more than scroll through about 80% of it.  I bless the fact that such-and-such is their passion, but have to remind myself constantly that I am not required to add it to my own repertoire.  It's too much.  This human brain has just about reached its capacity.

Our world will only become more and more complex and fascinating.  It's a conundrum.  How can we continue to be informed, educated thinkers and teachers if we have reached the saturation point? I really don't want to become a hermit.  In fact, this coming decade is likely to be the most productive and exciting of my life, if I can focus exclusively on those topics that I truly care about.  The world population may grow by another few billion before the end of my life, and who knows how information will be disseminated by then?  This is life energy continuing to grow and change, and it will not stop. "It's all good." But I suspect that the only way I will truly make my mark is to gently release the tendency to gather and analyze so much new external information, and focus more on creatively expressing what's already within me.